Stand Out Don't Fit In

Societal pressure has made most of us believe that something is wrong with our bodies, career, families, ambitions, and plans.

One day you're told the SI unit for beauty and attraction is being curvaceous and so the skinny girl has to do weird things like eating chicken mash to add weight and getting the supporting document.

After a few months, the trend changes, and an attractive woman is a lightweight and the same woman has to struggle to lose weight.

In the past, who was the fairest of them all? The light-skinned girl. What happened? The streets were full of women looking for bleaching agents. Some got into debts, others sold their belongings to bleach. Sadly, the knuckles remained dark. Others turned purple. True story, I saw one.

Then, Lupita a melanin girl won an award and suddenly every girl wants to be dark skin. Melanin is popping and the new fairest of them all.

Men were raised to be of character, providers, protectors but societal pressure for them is different. Some have been made to believe to be men, they need to have several women and while at it donate their seeds and flee when they germinate. Maybe this is one of the reasons for the rise in dysfunctional families because men are not taking up their responsibilities, no mentorship, and guidance. But how will you be known as the lion of your jungle if you cannot roar? Roaring in this case for the wrong reason.

You have kept on changing careers not because it is in your plan but because you have been made to believe the career you are in is not fit. You are at 50 years, retirement is ticking but still struggling to find the best career.

The struggle is real. But how about you realize you were created to stand out and not fit in.

Imagine how boring the world would be if we were all accountants, who would play music. If we were all doctors who would be the patients. You need to remember being a tailor is okay, you are a designer that dresses us. Nothing wrong with being a driver or a rider. 

Until you realize that we are all unique, you'll struggle to fit in.

Strive to be fit, not have weight determined by the crowd.

Strive to have a career that you love and consider a passion and not what is trending. Not everything is trending is right for you.

Enjoy your skin color and show up in pride because you're perfectly okay the way you are. 

Being a sperm donor to children you won't raise won't add value. Stand out by raising your family and doing right. 

 Stopping thinking of what people will say and think because after all there is joy in standing out.

Fitting in is too cumbersome and crowded and sometimes makes you go against your values.

Standing out makes you utilize all your God-given abilities, living in your purpose, and boosts your confidence.

Package yourself without fitting in.

Be that individual who stands out. Imagine how diverse, beautiful, and great the world would be if we all stood out in our uniqueness and synched our efforts. 

You have what it takes. You have you. No fingerprints are the same, even twins' just the same way you are unique. The world needs to see that.

Have a standing out month.