It has been a long minute since I was here, but I am grateful that I still have people who pass by an article or so. Life has been busy, but I miss penning down my thoughts here. I think it is part of adulting. As a child, I kept saying how I wished to be an adult. Well, if I had a memo, I would have reconsidered this or come with my manual. Today, I sat down reflecting on how the year has been. First, I am concerned about the speed this year is taking. It is already May. Just the other day, we were crossing over to 2024, and a number of people deliberately refused to claim how this year would be their year, lest they jinx it. A lot has happened from global to personal levels.
While it has been a minute, I am seated here just wondering how life can be fragile and how foolish of us to imagine the permanency of life. I am seated here scrolling through social media and seeing how life is fragile. I am looking at how the floods have affected people and are no respecter of persons. I know I have written about time in a different way in one of the posts, and that is why I feel like I am having a déjà vu. I feel like people still do not understand just how frail and powerless we are that we cannot control time. We think we are all powerful until we realize we can only do so much.
My turnaround happened during Covid-19. When all my plans came crashing down and every 4:00 PM, the then Cabinet Secretary for Health would update us on the new infections. God, this sucked and drained, and from then I can count the number of times I have watched the news. My turnaround happened then when I realized that there was never a perfect moment. It was an illusion that would rob me of my joy and purpose. I began celebrating my birthdays religiously to celebrate life. Courtesy of Carol, our self-care ambassador, I began an intentional journey towards self-care, and the four years have been blissful. I have seen my therapists at will and when love took me back to sessions twice a week.
I think these floods made me sit down and reminded me of a few things. We have what we can control and what we absolutely cannot. We are not in control of time, and there is nothing we can do about it. I am partly Kisii but still cannot tell time to stop. But you and I can do one thing: live life. I hope you realize what you have is now, that is all, and I hope you live and enjoy every minute of it. If you are being sun-kissed, enjoy the warmth, and if you are passing through the waters, brave it because no season lasts forever. Stop with the illusion of a perfect time or saving time. Stop with the idea that 10 years from now things will be better. Before you get to the 10th year, what are you doing with the present?
Stop waiting for the perfect moment to wear that sunny Sunday best. Stop waiting for the perfect moment to express and give love. Yes, this will be your 35th relationship, but not all men are dogs. Have you dated all of them? And not all girls are gold diggers, and probably the concern should be if you have any gold to dig. Stop and let go of the bitterness and unforgiveness you carry because some of your faces are full of wrinkles not because of your age but because of the load you carry. Start creating memories for your old age now. Dance in the rain, laugh at your own silly jokes, live life, start the small steps towards your goal and love. Take yourself out on that date. Read that book. Those who have died because of the floods had plans but they cannot actualize them. Some who have been evicted had nice cutlery famously known for guests while they were using worn-out plastic plates that have seen better days. Stop waiting for the guests to have fine dining, be your own guests. Go buy yourself flowers and do not wait for prince charming, what if he was swept by the floods.
Time is a beautiful asset if only we see the gift it comes with, now. The best time you have is now. What are you holding back for the perfect moment? Who told you there will be a perfect moment? Enjoy the greatest gift, the present, now. Stop with the self inflicted barriers.