Two days to your fortieth birthday and you still have not built your dream house and you now feel like a failure.
The tall dark and handsome man you thought would cross your path might have been confused and forgot and now you are defined as a senior bachelorette. You are now willing to allow any Tom, Dick, and Harry to date you. You remember the abusive ex and you now justify that he would do it once a month and that's manageable.
You have been trying to grow your business the right way, with no shortcuts but the struggle is real and you now want to give up.
At 30 years you have struggled to get your degree but now you feel old and do not think there is an opportunity to actualize that dream.
You have gotten the courage to leave an abusive relationship but you feel your life is wasted and do not want to keep living. You feel like all your peers have gone ahead with life and wonder.
I feel you because I understand how frustrating it can be that your plans do not work as expected.
Nobody wants their plans to fail.
Still in 2020, with the pandemic, there is the pressure that your year's resolutions are statements in writing.
There's nothing much that you have done. All your plans have been disorganized.
But pause, you are stronger than you think, greater than you can imagine. All you need is to re-strategize but it begins with this understanding. Not everything will work as planned but that does not make you less of a human being.
Take time to understand if the things that you desire are intrinsically motivated or you are flowing with the wave.
Understand it is okay to re-strategize. Nothing is fixed on stone. You do not have to continue being a sad administrator while you feel you can be a great social worker. Careers can be changed anytime.
Avoid external pressure from individuals who feel like you are answerable to them and now reduce you to a statistics of people who are not doing enough.
As the year, comes to an end, take some time out and reflect on what worked well and what was not achieved.
Do it your way. Sometimes you win some, and sometimes you lose some.
You can still go back to school at 40. Pursue something that you love
You can still find love. Maybe it is time to think beyond the Tall Dark and Handsome qualities that everyone wants for you but think of who would compliment you and love you for you.
There is no award for getting married at 28 years.
Travel at 60 years. Get your Ph.D. at 70. Launch your career that has stalled because you are afraid of people will think about you. Hit that gym and tone your muscles. Go back to the drawing board and adjust to what fits you. Stop living under the shadows of others. They will suffocate you.
Rip off the goals you had written five years ago and, write new ones that you feel led and know you want to achieve. Life keeps evolving, desires change, goals, and aspirations too. Do not get fixated
Go back to the drawing board. You can be everything and anything you want to be at any age.
Live life unafraid, at your own pace, and enjoy every bit of it. Stop comparing your life. You have your journey and story. Embrace it to the fullest. Life does not start at 40, it starts now
Wow!this speaks directly to my soul
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Thankyou for being an inspiration every Monday morning
Profound, thank you for this insightful reminder.
ReplyDeleteLovely Article to start a week with! Am loving every word.
ReplyDeleteLovely Article to start a week with! Am loving every word.
ReplyDeleteI always lovr mondays.Such great motivations
ReplyDeleteGreat motivational message for self actualisation and realization. Awakening the lost dreams.
ReplyDeleteWord. Yes I need to set time and reflect before the year ends, thank you very much for the message
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