The After Math

    

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  Happy after Valentine's Day!

 Do I start with the ones who held a pity party for themselves asking, 'My father, my father why hast thou forsaken me? Daughters of Eve are being taken to Maasai Mara, gifted with chocolate and big machines and here I am receiving please call me from my village relatives.' Then there is another group that was cut off and could no longer see the WhatsApp Status. Your main person was dealing with his/her main person. You are not their main. Some went and had one-night stands to look for love or rather equate it with love. Happy parenting in advance, On November 14th you will be a mother. 

Others are still waiting for the flower making excuses for their partners and their schedule. Darling, the flowers are not coming, he did not forget. He just was not into it. 

There is a man who took a loan to please his beloved because the 'babe what are you doing for me? Baba Njoroge is taking his wife to Zanzibar' pressure caved in. And, there is the one who shut you down when you requested you celebrate the day by telling you they do not believe in Valentine's and started guilt-tripping and listing everything they have done for you since independence. 

There is a special lot that may seemingly be praying as they face Mount Kenya because their persons went all out for them. The flowers, dinner, chocolate, and gifts. Show us thy way master. 

And another special of all, it was just like any other day. They are constant. They express love every single day. They do not understand the hullabaloo of one day and the next day you are struggling with understanding how you did some things.

Whatever happened, happened and we are here either nursing the wounds or enjoying a rekindled love or you are more confused. Individuals are already reaching out for therapy because they realized they were wounded, others for pre-marital counseling. But, I hope you took the time to reflectively think about your love life. Is it going the way you desire or are there things that need to change? Does it start with you working on yourself? Do you have unnecessary and unrealistic expectations that seem to hurt you more than you could ever imagine? Are you looking for a partner that drops from heaven every day and is a saint? Are you settled in a wrong relationship but you are afraid to walk out because of what people will say or the person has intentionally messed up with your worth but they still end up looking like your savior. 

Did you enjoy feeling the love, the time you spent with your beloved? Why should it just be a one-day thing? Can you consider investing in your relationship? Dear man, I bet you enjoyed watching your lady enjoy the flowers but you had untold anxieties about making her happy because it was out of pressure. Get her flowers on the 9th of July. Dear lady, I bet you enjoyed gifting your man. His eyes were brighter. Do it when there is no occasion. The truth is you have to be intentional to make your relationship work. 

Dear single, I understand the pressure and sometimes the depression that might arise with celebrating the day. Do not go back to things that are dead and buried. Do not go back to psychos who enslave you, hurt you, and still come out as angels. It can be a challenge but I hope you do not allow one day to make you feel like you do not deserve love. You do, just be a little patient, discover yourself, purpose, and love the person you are becoming. 

Love is such a beautiful thing with the right person. It makes you forget the suffering. But do not go out there looking for someone to complete you. Others can only compliment you. I pray you all to find love. Never underestimate the power of the good morning and babe I just thought of you texts, the cuddling but let it be with the right person. Love will find you.