Mindset Shift

Our childhood experiences, exposure, and general life experiences make us who we are. One of the hardest things to do is learning and unlearning especially changing our mindsets. We get to a familiar place which may not be comfortable but we choose to stick there. We can't expect different results doing the same thing. I mean, that's kind of insane.

Life is not always a smooth road. There are ups and downs but it gets to a point where a turn around is needed to get your break. It gets to a point of realization that, yes, I need to make different choices to have a better life not just for me but even my descendants and clansmen.

Break cycles of emotional abuse and justifying it on the other person's hormones or a bad day. Just because you grew up in an emotionally abusive home doesn't mean it has to go on.  Stop bleeding on other people who do not understand you. But, stop believing that you cannot be happy, that you are doomed. Reclaim who you are. You are responsible for what you think about yourself and not what others think of you.

Break up with the idea of one. Normalize the idea that you were not created to be just one thing, a doctor or a teacher. There is so much inside of you. Hidden talents and gifts that need to be unleashed to the world. Stop limiting yourself. Can't you be a designer and an international speaker at the same time? A therapist and a musician. A doctor and a baker. Unleash all your potentials. Discover who you are and make great moves. Let it sink in you.

Don't forget to break the mindset of unbelief and self-doubt. Doubt has crippled many into achieving great things but I say take the chance. You have all it takes. Do it even if you'll do it afraid. Believe that you are capable of doing things, make bold moves and you have the greatest contributions to this world. You didn't come from a great environment but a great environment can come from you. Believe it. Live it.

And, stop thinking you can be everything to everyone and a people pleaser. The reason why you are drained and tired is that you have put yourself to be the savior of everyone. You put out fires that burn you. You cannot be a husband, BFF, therapist, consultant, confidant, business analyst to one person. You'll get tired. You can't please everyone and live a good life.

But, this isn't an easy path to choose. Breaking patterns and mindset shift is not a journey someone else can walk on your behalf. It gets to a point where you get tired of living life the way you are and hunger for change. There will be moments of bargaining. Moments of uncertainty. But do you want different results, you need to make tough choices. They will break you to make you in the long run. 

You need to have a mindset shift. You have to face those demons and speak life to yourself. You need to find your way in life and choose that you won't live a mediocre life. Things that happened in your family's generation will end where you begin to take a different turn. Your children will be lucky that you made a different choice. It is not magic, it won't happen overnight. It is a journey.