Circle Of Influence

Three weeks into the year and hopefully it is will well with your soul. For some, the written resolutions are the road map. For others, they will just flow with what comes.

Regardless, I still hope you carry every day with intentionality. You have got to be intentional in how you live and that is why maybe we should pause, reflect, and make some changes.

What baggages are you carrying? What baggages are heavy on you. Some of us are already tired and it is the first month of the year. You are taking painkillers for other's headaches. Life is already tasting bitter.

What is in your circle of influence? What concerns you and can take control.

You are responsible for your behavior. You are responsible for your attitude. If your attitude is bad, it is up to you. The consequences of the actions you made are on you.

You can influence who will be in your circle of friends and who needs to be out.

Take some time and reflect, what are you trying to carry that is beyond you and maybe does not concern you.

Could it be you feel like you can change the weather patterns?

Oh, do you want to control someone's behaviors or attitudes towards you? 

What others decide to do is on them.

Take time to do your analysis of things going on in your life and what you can change. You will realize you have so much to work on you that you do not have time to focus on other's problems.

See, until you realize you are not a demigod and a superman You will try fixing everyone and everything.

Others' baggage will drain you completely until you become bitter with yourself because you feel as if you are not doing enough.

It is still too early in the year to let circumstances and people steal your joy.

You cannot control the weather, dress appropriately otherwise you will be the mother of all complainants wondering why it is raining in January. 

You cannot control traffic and how other drivers act on the road but you can control your attitude. Maybe the traffic is there to help you realize you need to slow down and relax and see what is around you.

Stop allowing yourself to be the carrier of everything that is thrown on you. It is okay to know that there are things beyond you and you can do nothing about. It is okay to know that some chapters are good but not worth opening. It is better to know what matters to you and what you can do to guard your space and peace. What is your circle of influence?