Pause. It is All Right

 

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Is it just me or have you noticed the days are going by extremely fast? In a blink of an eye and the sunrise is here. In a blink of an eye, we are just towards the tail end of the year's first quarter. For some, it is a dream come true but to some, the dread is too much because if you take stock, probably there is nothing much that you seemingly have done. You are worried about the things that you have not accomplished. This has blinded you to see the little tiny progress you have made and that counts for something. You are more concerned about the things you are yet to achieve in a few months, which has robbed you of today's joy. 

But today, I want you to inhale and exhale and realize the much you have done. You have pulled yourself out of bed even on days you did not think you would. You submitted applications even when rejects were coming in fast and furious. You have shown up for yourself, sat with your feelings, and loved on yourself. You are working towards leaving an addiction. That is progress and a round of applause to you. But you know what, I feel your frustration because most times, we have been conditioned to see the outcome that we do not live through the process, but you are doing well. 

Things won't always happen the way you had planned. Your new year's resolutions may not be aligning. The promises from people have not been honored. I believe you are being unfair to yourself to think that everything has to happen as planned and at the exact second. This is the root of the frustration. This is why it is necessary to pause and track progress. You should evaluate what is in your control and what is not, because honestly, so much is happening around the globe that is beyond you, but how you respond to the events and adjust yourself and your strategies. And most importantly, I want you to love yourself. 

Are your goals realistic? Are they things you want to achieve for yourself or to prove a point to someone? It is never too late to redefine what you want to achieve. It is never too late to set new goals. Right now is the best time. Go back to what you have written down and evaluate yourself. Be authentic and put yourself first to a point where you want to do things for yourself and things that align with your values. 

It is unnecessary pressure to think everything will work out at once and, you may be setting yourself up for failure and distress. For that reason, evaluate the main goal and set mini-goals to achieve it. Be kind to yourself and notice the small steps. Enjoy the journey. Do not wait for the glory of the victory because as a human being, you will get there and want more. Live now, and enjoy the process. Put in the work and experience change. The process will not always be rosy and all fun but trust me, put in the work. Love yourself enough to know when to take a break. Walk with people who are for you and value your growth. You cannot achieve your set goals by having crowds of people who are dragging you. Do not wait to see the whole staircase, just make the first step. No one size fits it all. Your journey is unique. The sun will shine but for now, enjoy the stars and moonlight as it brightens your path.