Do Not Throw Pearls To Swine

 

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Welcome to the second quarter of the year. I hope you have had the chance to reflect on how the quarter has been and plan for the second quarter. Most importantly, I hope you were able to evaluate your value and worth. I can never overemphasize beliefs and the need to know your worth. It not only saves you a lot of unnecessary pain but also allows you to know when to leave when respect is not being served. 

I recently had a conversation with someone about how the world has to some extent limited our belief. We are told we are social beings, true of that, but we are told our identity is from relationships. No wonder some of you are dying and lonely in relationships because you will be seen having a title. I realize how much you are giving yourself in a relationship that drains you. I see how you get a panic attack because of the unanswered calls, the person is busy but you still get stuck and say he loves you. Really, does he? Are you a priority in their lives? You think are the second savior and you believe it is your love that will save and change him, Other women were not able to because they did not love him hard. He tells you that you are his princess. She tells you that you are the only one who brings her joy and with that you are fixed into something that you may end up, getting more drained because you believe her joy is your ultimate responsibility. 

Newsflash is that you are not the second savior and you cannot really change someone. They have to be intentional in working on themselves. But what has this narrative done? We are stuck in a place where we do not belong. We are stuck in a place where our worth is crushed every day. We are stuck in a place where we will show up, but it will never be appreciated. We are overdoing things to fit in and be loved. It reminds me of how I almost bought a watch worth 5k to a son of Nebuchadnezzar because in my mind I heard he loved me. The reality was different. 

How many of us are throwing pearls at the swine? How many of us are doing things beyond what is needed? How many of us are willing to burn to keep others warm? How many of us are tired of the same thing, the same song with no changes? Truth is, we probably want to give our everything to unlovable people because that is normal to us from our childhood. We had to go the extra mile to be loved and get affirmation from our parents and caregivers. We had to do things to get loved. We had to buy affection at times from family members. This is our default setting. In our adulthood, it manifests in our relationships and friendships. 

Do not give people valuable things that they do not deserve. It begins with you. I hope in this second quarter of the year, you can learn to love yourself enough to work on yourself, be aware of your worth, enhance boundaries, and leave when it is not too late. You are special and worthy of good things in life. You just need to challenge the limiting beliefs and reset your mindset. Do not settle for what you do not deserve. Being called a savior is just superlative and a way to fix you into something that is not for you. I hope in this second quarter of the year you love yourself enough to challenge limiting beliefs and choose to not throw your pearls to the swine. Hold yourself in high esteem and understand that not everyone will have access to your life. 

You are a treasure. A pearl will not be valuable in a pigsty. It will be misused. It will be dishonored. You deserve to be in a place of honor where people know the value of a pearl to keep it safe, admire and treasure it. You are that pearl.