Let It Go

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I know there are days we sit down and wonder why some people came into our lives. We wonder why some left our lives. It is always a constant battle of either going back or running away from them. For those who gave us premium tears, we feel like karma should work on them and payback should be sooner than they think. We imagine having the last laugh. For those who showed us some tender love and care and yet they are no longer with us, we look towards the door, hoping for that knock, 'Hey babe. I am back' But honestly, it is not always like that. 

Well, I turned 34 just the other day and most of my birthdays are filled with anxiety about probably the goals I have not achieved and the places I have not gone. However, this time as I reflected, I was able to count my blessings one by one but I had a light bulb moment. I thought of the people who have come in and out of my life and those who were currently in my life. I realized that human beings keep growing and that some people will be in with you for a long haul and others will be in for a specific season.

 Further, I discovered it is human nature to want people, especially those who have been kind to you, to stay longer, but life happens. After the healing, you realize that not everyone is supposed to stay in your life forever and, as much as it is hard and will hurt it is okay. 

Some people will come into your life to move you to the next level. Others will teach you lessons on how to love and be loved. The rest will teach you things you do not want in a human being. And ultimately, some will point you to self-awareness. 

That aha moment made me realize two great things, be and give your best in any form of friendship and, secondly heal so that you do not have people walking on eggshells around you. I also discovered some sense of relief knowing that it gets to a point where you discover who Peter and Judas are. Peter was just a good person having a bad day. Judas was just a bad person waiting for when to strike. When you know this, you will know who to accept back and who to abandon. 

Some of us are still holding onto people who will never come back, they will not come back to love you, they will not come back for you and what this has done you have created a wall to block people. Life is sometimes not a fairy tale. The person was not bad, they were just in your life for a season. For some of you, your prayers have turned out to be a vengeance plan. You cannot even pray that God saves us from the predicted elnino; your daily prayers are, 'Revenge for me God. This person must suffer. I will not die until I see them suffer. Ribakashata raba, kurinai.' and you no longer have the joy of living. Your focus is on their downfall, rather than your healing. 

Probably some people were meant to come into your life to give you a baby, another to character develop you to booking therapy every Tuesday and Thursday. Others to help you learn to receive love. When the healing is done, it gets easier to notice the patterns, what you need to work on, and the life you need to live. Everyone who comes into your life changes your DNA, some will make you look like a demon, and others an angel. Endeavor to live a life free from the weight of others, it is a journey, and you will get there.  Sometimes you need to just remain with the memories and allow people to get off the bus.